Confidence Factor - The Importance of it!

Is confidence a big ingredient for success, yes definitely! It’s as important as “Salt to taste” in any recipe. This is not something that can be taught, seen or adopted overnight. This has to come from within. Why are some good at it and why are some not? But it is not difficult to gain confidence. How does it work? Maybe these thoughts will help. It is just plain thinking.

I find myself go back to cocoon in most areas while I super excel in some. The reason is lack of confidence in areas where I don’t know the subject well; the term is “Fear of Rejection”. But the more number of times you attempt at saying what you think “makes more sense” or speak confidently; soon the Fear of Rejection will turn to Acceptance firstly in your mind and later to actually letting it out.

It’s only when we suppress our confidence in most areas where we think, we are good but only for the fact what if “I get rejected” comes to your mind, we feel disappointed.  Confidence need not only be related to our career, it can be in every avenue of our lives. It’s only the fear of what others will think of you if you say something wrong, that prevents you from saying what you want. To me, confidence is plainly putting what you think is right and how you think you can achieve a task boldly. First step is to trust yourself and nobody in this trip to become successful. If you are confident about yourself, this will come automatically. It is like a muscle, the more you use it, the more it gets stronger. The more number of times you actually face hard criticism is when you learn it better. So it’s okay even if you have to face hard times initially, these learning’s will only help you promote yourself better. Face it, if you know it; don’t hesitate to speak out as you know you have it in you! If we fail one or two times, it is okay, we should be glad we made a beginning somewhere.  Confidence leads to happiness and these are two things which can make or break things!

SLEEP and REST can work wonders to one’s efficiency!

“Burning the midnight oil” is a famous idiom which is so relevant with each one of us gearing up for the Race to “Survival of the fittest”. In this bargain, we forget to have quality sleep. Why am I talking about something so fundamental? I agree all of us know how crucial it is, but  the sleep is often neglected, and lack of it can take a toll on our body completely.

We all are humans and not machines and hence REST is essential. These days everyone is so busy checking their phones, laptops all through the night and even do that first thing after waking up just to ensure they haven’t missed out on any important mails. Sometimes PAUSE button works. PAUSE IT, MUTE IT, and GET OFF IT atleast during the hours you need to rest. As a mother, the first year of bringing up my child, I know I had no room for rest or sleep. Typically waking up all through the night or rather even the hours I slept, I would be subconsciously awake asking myself, “what if” I miss my child’s cry. I think we mothers are all made that way.

That’s when I realized how important it is for one to rest and get the perfect beauty sleep. 8 hours or not, the hours we sleep should be good without any disturbances. Half the battle is won if we condition our body to regular patterns of sleep, eating habits; exercise and engaging in work all being channeled at one time every day. TOUGH! Or I’m pretty sure we can’t achieve it without any hindrances. But atleast we try to make it work 3 days out of 7, we have made a beginning! Dedicate time to rest, sleep. Once you follow a pattern of sleeping and resting during the nights, it will definitely show in your mood, set you on a positive note to begin the day. You don’t want to see a child cranky similarly; we don’t have to see ourselves also equally cranky without a proper sleep. There is a co relation between good hours of sleep leading to greater efficiency and productivity. Give your brains some rest so that it gives you more results.

Give in more.

It is very easy to say that a relationship has to be going two ways! There are no two ways about it. It’s always your way or my way or sometimes the high way. Just kidding! No, I am not going to repeat what has been said number of times or what is always being perceived. I believe in the fact of giving in more, well, if I begin to think that a relationship can be going absolutely peaceful only if the giver/receiver is at complete symphony. I am wrong, how many times have that been possible, sometimes the more you only expect and not get what you really expect, then it’s going to be a cacophony. Why do we always let our EGOS come in between any relationships we share? It’s just human tendency I guess, you don’t have to agree with me, but the fact is EGOS destroy relationships. Yes, I have seen many relationships that I would have lost perhaps due to my own ego. Some learning’s have been at an early start of my life.

That’s when I decided, that I can’t change the way people think but I could change the way I think so when I applied this formula in all the relationships I have, it worked wonders, not that it changed the situation, everything remained the same but the only difference was I learned to give in more without expecting anything in return and what did I gain in return, happiness and not disappointments, sometimes you have to let it go and only give in more. The thought of just altering the mind from expecting to give itself will fetch a lot of fruitful results. So I will let you guys ponder on this while I get ready to give in more J…